She would take that as how much people LOVE bulldogs but realistically, she dressed them up in clothes as we walked! That part has changed as he literally broke us financially. The dog is very sweet and pretty well-behaved with me. I didnt have much issue with his dog prior to moving in either, but then once he moved in with me, the dog became super needy and dependent and took up ALL my bfs attention. What should I do? I dont care. I know the situation is not helped by my depression and anxiety so Ive booked a session with a counsellor but I seriously dont know how to get past this. They come out there, put their mouth at the table because we have breakfast food on there and wipe drool on the table (throw up city!) No significant other should ever feel less worthy than a pet animal in my book. Him and I (Bobbi) dont get along at all!!! Some of you people are obsessive over your dogs and just plain silly if your willing to throw a relationship away because of dogs. So stupid. i wanted to embark on a new relationship, and instead of prevented from doing so, because of the current interference from the cat. (Saliva most likely). Hed spend hours touching the animal while I didnt receive any physical touch. She never relieved herself in the house. These poor butt-hurt people making butt-hurt comments, dont get it, but I do.. Im not a dog person, and I have to live with one now, and I totally get you. Enough for another day. I HATE having fur on my clothes. In fact, giving less attention to the dog all of a sudden can lead to a number of psychological issues. I think in Mistys case all she can fairly expect is for her partner to groom his dog more so that the fur is as little a discomfort or annoyance as possible. If more people could understand this principle there wouldnt be so many broken marriages and relationships in the world. She is aware of the crisis Im facing but sometimes I think she would give me up before she would rehome any one of our Maltese or any one of our two Yorkies. Otherwise, the dog was great. I didnt realize until now pets could cause trouble in relationships.. always been in one that where we are both on same side or at same level of animal love.. It seems reasonable to need a bit of adjustment time. I got the two cats for my girls. I said i don t want the dog on the bed and furniture. Idk what to do or say anymore.. Dont get the Bark Genie, the chihuahua barks right through it. The house always smelled clean and we did have to worry about poop or pee anywhere either as he always went to the litter and we kept that clean. Lady your dog is leading your life. And then the begging by the table and petting them while we are eating and letting them lick the plats. We got a dog thinking it would help us keep active, particularly as I was giving up my job to move with my husband who wanted a career change and to home school our kid who couldnt cope in public school. He has been trained well and understands that there is no jumping or messing around in the bed, he must be still, and he always is. You would be cruel to the dog, and still have an irresponsible ah for a boyfriend. They are animals. The saddest thing to me is that I miss having a furry friend (pet) but fear if another was brought into this household, my nightmare would start all over again, so pet ownership for me will not happen as long as this man is my husband. Im currently on crutches and his dog will cut me off when Im walking and has peed on my stuff, I clean the apartment because my boyfriend works a lot and as soon as Im done cleaning his dog pisses everywhere in the house, idk what to do. good luck. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. I have had dogs and other animals my whole life. Over and over again, I see stories about how the boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses of these dog owners end up feeling left out, second class, and unimportant while the needs of a dog are being prioritized over their own. This is getting out of control. We were supposed to go on a vacation when I came back. According to him, Beau always is doing something wrong. (He still pretend mutt his child/partner). You still need to feed them and walk them before youre able to take care of your own needs. How could he if hes never met her? My baby is 8 months now with asthma and gets rashes and has eczemathe doctor said to keep the dog away from the baby because the dog is part of the problem but HE WILL NOT do that even of our lives depended on it. If you have a high-energy canine friend that seeks numerous amount of exercises on a daily basis, with or without intention, it will play rough with your kids. Im a mess right now. relationships. Because he hates him please help. So, since my Chihuahua was the only one fully house trained & shes such a good dog, we agreed that we would keep her, but the other 2 dogs would need to find new homes. Do it by yourself. My house (which I paid for) will be destroyed, but it doesnt matter because its just a house. That is MY faultblame me. According to them, your dog is supposed to have the run of the house. I made myself very clear that I would not care for her dog in any manner and that if she wanted to keep it she needed to care for it. Reading some of these posts has been an eyeopener. They are very, very good dogs. He then cuddles the dog and the dog thinks he is doing good. One of the things I miss most, is being able to sleep in on the weekends with my bf. And I saw a post on here that another womans husband doesnt spend time with the baby but time with the dog and I really dont want that to happen. You seriously CALL YOUR DOG TO BED?? They both are very jealous and possessive dogs! Beau IS NOT ALLOWED to move from his bed at night because it will wake him up. Are you kidding me??? And one of the dogs, also keeps drinking from the toilet and chews up garbage from the trash can in the bathroom, even underwear! He is asking me to consider changing my entire life. We had discussed prior that she would need regular groomings and brushings to minimize the shedding but this chore has not been upkept at all. Besides her annoying habits such as constantly licking the floor, and herself, scratching any closed doors whenever she feels like it, etc, she was allowed by my husband to sleep in bed with us, even during my pregnancy while the smell of her would make me sick. You have to be prepared though. I have 2 kids 6 & 3 Im feeling like Mulan (the puppy) is another kid. sometimes dogs are more prone to certain behaviors or traits dependent on their breed. Learning stages for a puppy are very difficult and tiring on them, too. Im just worried I dont know how to breach this gap, explain how I look at dogs in a different way. Shes pregnant!!!!! Their dog scratches all her skin off all over the floor there are piles of flakes of skin all over the carpet and the dog gets the whole couch to stink up and chews on herself and she also has no manners she pees on the carpet when shes mad at her owners or on the floor when my boyfriends parents leave and leave my boyfriend to clean it upand she is also treated like royalty Me and my boyfriend rescued our third cat from someone who said they felt like abusing him and I remember I held the kitten in my arms and bonded with the cat so it was basically like I was its human mom ya know.. but the plan was wed keep it until we found another home for it.. and his parents didnt want to give him up so we were stuck with a third cat that they claim is my cat but yet they named him even when I already came up with a name which I thought was rude and meant that they were taking claim over the cat down the road the cat started messing on the bathroom floor everyday and meowing at our door at 5am really loud i cant stand it.. his parents wanted to keep him and no one has trained him on top of that they let their diaper cat beat up this new cat and rip his hair out which makes me feel super bad but all these misbehaving pets have ruined animals for me and i cant stand living with them im also pregnant and my boyfriend thinks im a control freak because i dont want to be around them or let them sleep in the bed. I just dont know what to do. I told her she could keep the dog if she promises to keep them separate at all times. How about getting her involved and you both go to obedience training with the dog? Which I usually dont. I think when someone treats animals badly they have no problem treating people badly as well. Hes nuts. I am so happy I left. Share responsibilities: You need to take some weight off from your husband/boyfriend if you really love the dog. He claimed to have loved them but his version of a pet and mine are very different and now ive fallen pregnant hes turned into a control freak and if my dogs are within an inch of him he gets annoyed. My soon to be husband (in 5 months) has two adorable dogs. The other, well, really only second rate by comparison. Discuss with the husband/boyfriend: He is your love. But they always had strict boundaries, training and manners. Although, after a few weeks, she started destroying our home. . They just dont get the socialization they need-especially in winter. i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! :) Its too I didnt meet someone like you that has this common sense attitude when it come to their pets. Correct his mindset: As a wife/girlfriend, you should be able to correct his mindset. She has 5 dogs and I cant even begin to describe that situation. Unless hes just being an ass, then maybe you should reconsider staying with your partner. He says I cant understand how he feels because I dont like dogs. He gets along with the cats, he is potty trained, he loves fetch, and he doesnt have to sleep on the bed. He clearly doesnt want to compromise which is what relationships are all about and being his parents are dog nuts, hes lived that personality trait his whole life and has been taught by them to be that way. I cant lead myself to believe that most women would rather be alone with a dog than have a significant other in their life. Hardwood floor. To allow your dogs behaviors and habits to ruin a human relationship is insane to me! I started using sanitation wipes and putting the dishwasher on sanitation cycle. But weve started talking about marriage and a life together. A partner than doesnt take care of their dog, doesnt train it, give it exercise or give it what it needs ( not wants) is the problem not the dog. Hi Dan, I totally understand your pain and could have written your post myself! He is confined to his bed and his yard and it makes me sick. Not disciplining an animal does not mean love. So I need help! Of course, he farts, breathes heavy and eats like a beast but that is not really his fault but it doesnt endear him to me anymore so by doing so. Just because you want to be a furry freak, doesnt mean everyone else should applaud you for it. You cannot compare a dog to a child. Yet most of the time something will always get in the way. Why not question your need to put human needs beneath dogs. On the flip side hes upset with me because Id even ask him to do this. I say someone who cant stand dog hair isnt a true dog lover. When I tell him that those dogs need to be trained, he gets supercold and defenisive. She said, He loves (emphasis) his dog! Love is like a bank account, you make deposits and withdrawals. Its to the point that we cant even go out to dinner if we dont have someone dog sit because his new found obsession is digging at the stucco on my house. I got rid of my dog because of the agreement we made but he still has his dog a year later. This makes me so sad. She wants the dog and baby to share the room, its just so unhealthy. I live animals. A steak. This is a man that Anya had never witnessed first hand beating me as I always left her outside when we would get in a scuffle yet she would not yield. what a pain. What has happened in cities all these people wearing their (Im talking about the large number of offenders, and no offence meant for the super owners who get it) dogs like an honour badge what is so cool about being dominated by your pet? My wife blames my 13 month pitt for everything that is chewed up regardless of where its laying at. Now dont get me wrong I have my human company and my furry company. I used to love dogs, never again. No thanks! My counselor believed it had to do with him having trust issues many years before I came along. How many times have we apologized for getting into a bad fight only to get into another one a week later when he throws it in my face. I have a medium size dog, 2 & half year old, who has always slept in bed with me. Just order the dog back to her bed. 7.2M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. This is not an insult. (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). But it's amazing how often we jump through psychological hoops of self-justification to convince ourselves that things are really working. If you cant fix that, then yes, you should break up. What should I do? We are excited/terrified but both incredibly happy to be one parents. He yelled at me when I was tired and my feet where swollen because I didnt buy the dog food when she still had some left. He has gotten use to the room and plus this dog can sleep for like 8-12 hours a days, sometimes even more. Like one full week for leave it. Doesnt see our grandkids anymore. I need advice! I cant take it anymore. His response to this you can love my dog now. But they do NOT comprehend what a human partner does. The last big fight we had that almost ended our marriage was me telling her she didnt have to take the dog with her everywhere, and needed to get the dog used to being at home by herself so whenever we are both working outside of the home, the dog is not going through separation anxiety. If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog, the main reason could be puppy blues. Adopting a dog is expensive, and you live on a budget. It should be very simple You are RESPONSIBLE for your dog, from the moment you take him home until the day he or she passes. You are very lucky to have a supportive partner. The man obviously has a very dysfunctional relationship with his dog. My husband told me he was okay with another dog, but I should have known better (having gotten rid of the first one because of his whining and complaints). Im not a dog and wont be treated like that. Dust and pet dander are the main triggers. I questioned myself as a woman. He says he cant get rid of the dog bc it will upset his 22 year old adult son (who doesnt love with us & wont take care of the dog either)! I believe he got his dog to look posh. That wont change. Dogs begging at the table is not necessary and I didnt fight her on having the dogs in the kitchen, although they dont need to be in there while we are cooking either! Later on that day we had a minor argument i cannot remember what it was about, it would have been really trivial. Why would that look cool? My husband and I have been living together for almost two years. I have asked my parents if they wish to foster my baby as i know he will be happy there provided That theyv always treated our dogs like kids. I love my husband a lot and Im invested in this marriage, I moved 5000 miles for him, but this is a huge deal for me. And we have now been fighting constantly for a month now just about Bobbi! Who in the world prefers to sleep with animals over his wife??!! She weighs over 100 pounds and stands about 26 at the shoulder. I love to have nice clean things and now, I find myself spending most of my days in the rooms where animals arent allowed. If you love each other you find a way of adapting whilst keeping in mind the comfort of your boyfriend as well, but there is only so much you can do and someone who is completely opposed to the idea is never going to work. I do love him as he is the best dog he can be, but his natural instinct is to try to eat our cat, and Ive never wanted him to live with us. What magical power does he possess over you? The dog is so gross, drools everywhere All over the walls, sheds like crazy, snores all the time which is so annoying to me, farts and stinks up the house and on top of it all is super moody and snarls at me at times. A furry freak, doesnt mean everyone else should applaud you for it to a number of psychological issues )! 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